Oh yeah...we had a long talk after church (this all happened within a half an hour of church...Steve and I were still dealing with the situation when the boys went in and got cleaned up for church.)
Joshua was playing with the fire. That's all it comes down to. But he *told* us what he was doing and we didn't tell him not to. We practically gave him permission! The fact that there was a misunderstanding about what he was doing is our fault...we "shouldn't've" allowed it and we "shouldn't've" left him alone out there. We "shouldn't've" even started a fire...it was too windy!
Joshua made one bad decision. We made a slew of them.
Given the stress of the event - it being such a close-call - and his properly formed conscience, playing with fire will no longer have the same allure. I'm sure he learned a much bigger lesson than would ever have been learned otherwise. Hugs to y'all. Big hugs.