I believe many women who love the lord more than thier spouse usually are more forgiving to husbands with the exception of abuse verbally or mentally.
Mel Gibson's wife has put up with her husband's habitual drinking problem for years...
Drinking is not the same thing as having homosexual sex and then exposing his wife to a disease that can potentially kill her. I would definitely call that abuse. And again, read my post concerning what Christ has to say about adultery.