My thought to blame it on jealousy and insecurity is hardly a radical idea. :-)
I would suggest that a deeper look at *why* you are bothered by the fact that he'd focus some engergy at others, as long as he had plenty of that energy for you (and then some). In fact he'll have more of that energy for you than you'll want to receive. Y'see, that's the thing. Men want it more often than women. So either the man does without, or he goes it alone.
I've been faithfully married for over 20 years, for what it's worth. If it bothers his woman, a man should not do it. I agree with that.
But simply looking and imagining should *not* be considered threatening, or cheating. That is what a man does when his wife isn't in the mood that night.
In my opinion, of course.
Uhm,
Ah,
My attitude towards porn doesn't come from lack of exposure, experience or hearing the 'this is the way men think' lecture.
Quite the opposite. My exposure started way sooner than it should, and now, I feel tremendous pity for the starlets....cuz there but for the grace of god....
The lesson that was drilled into me wasn't healthy and it was destructive. So yeah, maybe some men are 'wired' that way....
I just see molested little girls with destroyed sense of worth and so much self hatred they're committing spiritual suicide...on camera.
And yeah, part of what was drilled into me was that the 'girls that make men horny are the only ones with value'.
So again,
Looking hurts....Not so much from insecurity, but knowing that things are being triggered that are ugly and attention is again being given away for sex.