I agree with you.....
I think what most are saying here is that many (most?) would take cake, even if it's stale. ;)
well there are skank men and skank women. not everyone is obsessed with cake. my hub is pretty satisfied with the gourmet meatloaf. i think you can tell pretty early on in a relationship where their tastes lie, and i would not want any part of anyone who is cake obsessed. and i consider it my job to train my daughters to identify and reject those serial cake tasters.
This is all about punishing men for women's insecurities, isn't it?
Sex is an appetite. As in your analogy, the problem there is if the hubby looks at you like meatloaf.
Now what if you had a hubby who just loved women -- including you? What if he looked at you like cake, and other women like Pizza?
Clearly, looking and imagining isn't cheating. Any more than fantasizing about killing your boss makes you a murderer.
najida, are you familiar with the ABC television show "Ugly Betty"? I absolutely adore it. It's "revenge of the nerds" for women.
As for "special", lust (EROS love)is a dime a dozen. To be honest, a woman doesn't have to even be particularly attractive to inspire lust (it's an attitude thing). But a man really is only capable of giving both EROS and PHILIA love to one (and only one) woman. Now THAT's special.