What's weird about your analogy is that it is perfectly normal for a man to look at cake with a glimmer in his eye and a smile and to love meatloaf and potatoes. So, if that analogy is perfect, we men would still have no idea why a woman would have a problem with it.
Because cake is special.
Meatloaf ain't.
We all want to feel special.
If you ask most women, which would they rather be,
they'd rather have a man look at them like they're cake...instead of seeing them as meatloaf.