[Warren_Piece]

HE IS NOT CHEATING ON YOU WITH PORN

Hildy, you know I'm a card carrying member of the "GodSquad", but I have to agree with you here. Most women are incapable of understanding how a man can view pornography and still have no emotional connection to the woman in question. Because women cannot seperate sex from emotion, they naturally believe men are the same. A man has zero, none, abosolutely NO emotional connection to the woman in question.

Now, my belief is that the real sin in pornography is this emotional detatchment - we are commanded to view each and every person we come in contact with as a child of God; this is impossible when a man is objectifying a woman. It is a particular weakness I struggle with mightily.

But women, please listen: Men compartmenalize. They can lust after a woman without caring one whit about her personally. For men, love and lust are not intertwined. Stop assuming your man views the world through your eyes.

[Hildy]

You said it exactly the way I meant it. Thank you.

[pollyannaish]

I came onto this thread to see what was up with SE and wandered into a very strange firestorm which is not a particular interest of mine...but it was like watching a car wreck...so I couldn't help but read through to the end.

I just wanted to say that yours is a brilliant post...correctly identifying the related sin involved. Nicely done.

[Lord_Baltar]

Warren, well put.

[beezdotcom]

Now, my belief is that the real sin in pornography is this emotional detatchment

This seems to REINFORCE the notion that porn is similar to cheating. Otherwise, would this mean that it's not cheating for a married guy to engage in a series of one-night stands, because he's "emotionally detached" from the other women he shags?

What of Matthew 5:28? "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart."

[najida]

What you said is true...

But even know that logically doesn't make it hurt one bit less sadly.