How about you worry about your and your real "man" of a husband and you let all of the other adults live their lives the way they see fit. We'll IM you if we have any questions on how to behave...
I know you think abuse is okay. Sorry I don't.
I want an argument why you think cheating is okay. Why is spreading disease okay? Why is neglecting your kids okay? Why is abuse okay>
Everyone who cheats is a potential disease spreader because of the kind of people who cheat with married people. They are all neglecting their children. And cheating is abuse.