Either personal preferences are to be respected (in which case there is no reason to pay any attention to your entire line or argument) or not (in which case, how many goats would you like for your 12-year-old daughter?)
No one's talking about two ways.
One can have a fulfilled Western life and have a nuclear family with a minimum of three children, guaranteeing the maintenance of that way of life for the next generation.
It's not an either/or proposition.
You imply that there is no middle ground between irresponsible license and government-mandated breeding programs.
But there is a middle ground: self-respecting people with self-control, choosing to to say yes to the future.