Most DUI's theycite and release on OR, unless there's been an injury. Why'd he have to bail?
DUI drugs, meth. He rear ended someone going to buy the stuff.
After I he called me at 4 am I called my friend whose husband is a Deputy. He was the arresting officer, LOL! The great thing was he did not know I knew the cop.
"It was just a little pot Mom"
"You are lying"
"No I'm not "
And round and round until I said I'm going back to bed, stop calling cause I'm not going to answer...
"You are going to leave me here?"
"Hey at least I know where you are."
So I would not answeer the calls from the jail. He about shit a brick when my friend showed up at the jail later and read him the riot act. He knew then his Mom knew people who could make his life hell. Hee-hee.
Long story, short version, after he bailed out, he swore he would never ever do drugs again (Wanna buy a bridge?)
Not only did my friend have the badass dog with a metal tooth, he was also on SWAT, and a really good guy.
He`would patrol the areas where my son hung out and where his dealers lived. No one wanted to sell my son anything because they knew crazy Mom knows SWAT and she calls them.
WHen I had to kick my son out of the house, I called my friend to help. He came over, told me legally he could not make him leave, but my son did not know that, so he could "trick" him.
Sounds bad, but if he stayed at home one of us would be dead and the other doing life.
Showed up 2 weeks later and (since it was late summer) I refused to let him in, he slept on the porch. He could only come in when his father was home and if he looked at me cross eyed, I'd flip open the cellphone and say "That's it, I'm calling so and so." I changed every lock and bolt in the house.
Alas, the weather turned cold and I could not let him freeze to death, so I let him into the basement. That was the big joke, we had a child locked in the basement. There is a rear door so of course he could go in & out.
He rolled, wore a wire and in return the lab "lost" the blood test and he lost his license & had to take the drug class and a year's probation. I did pay for the drug class, but I bought and made out the money order myself so he could not skip class & cash the money order. I refused to pay the probation fees and fines so the judge locked him up for 3 weeks.
That was about 5 years ago. He is doing well, has a job and even though I do not trust him as far as I can throw him, there is reason for hope.
There are some kids who go down the wrong road regardless of what a parent does. I get so angry when so many people blame the parent first.
Man, this is turning into an Oprah night :-)