I think there can be culpable intention to exploit on both sides. I think "charity" (in the sense of appreciating one another as God appreciates us) is difficult if not impossible. However there are some clear guideposts. Paying money to someone so's you can watch them pretend to be sexually aroused while not having a whole bunch of clothes on seems to be to be pretty clearly "using" somebody in a way that's bad for everyone involved. While I may not be capable of real charity, I can sure avoid the grosser violations of it.
I dunnno. I'm working on a notion about how mere law and respect for it won't establish a viable society. Just toying with it, I guess.
No, I don't nor would I ever support a "stripper" party or be involved in it. Including hiring a "male stripper". Watching the comments and reactions of women at Chip&n&Dale's in the late 70s, taught me quickly the entertainment was not about the stripper -- but other women. I laughed my face off at my fellow females. I had been "taken" there on a business trip by co-workers. They wouldn't tell me where they were taking me. I suspect, as a rule the "stripper" thing is differently processed among the two sexes. :)