[Dashing Dasher]

As for your Granny, my attitude has always been that it's no longer about her, it's about those around her. How she's treated by them is what is to be judged, not her, how she looks or her behaviors.

Such as it's been since the dawn of time. Societies are judged by how they treat the most helpless. And to me, folks like your Granny are at the greatest risk because they scare people by being a window into their possible future. So, often in the name of compassion, or discomfort or whatever, they are neglected.

You are very wise...

I'm thrilled to know you!

;-)

[najida]

And I'm happy to know you too!

[peacebaby]

I swear when I leave Grandmother's visit and get on the elevator, I feel like Linda Blair...like my head is spinning around and around and around.

It's crazy, and it's funny, and it's gut-wrenching sad.

[PaulaB]

Hubbys granny is in a nursing home. 93 years old and is now blind, deaf completely in one ear, and 70% in the other. Her oldest son (hubbys father who is 73 himself) goes to see her daily. At least once a month we drive up to see her and to sing her favorite gospel songs.

When I leave there my heart is in my throat. When I walk through the dining area where they have all of their elderly sitting waiting to be fed, I choke back. My mother-in-law and I try to speak and touch each of them just to let them know that even though we are strangers, we are still praying for them.