You know, there isn't that fine a distinction between being tough, pragmatic and realistic, and just plain mean spirited...
We all have our reasons. Some of us are warm fuzzy and yummy, some of us look at life through different eyes. It all depends on your experience. My have to do with the nearly 30 funerals I went to between 9/11/01 and 10/11/01. You have your reasons for the way you are, I have mine.