Could the fact you keep asking for peoples advice on a web forum when you should be seeking the guidance of your husband have anything to do with it?
Excuse me but my spouse is not in his proper frame of mind to be asking him questions.
He is irrational, one day says one thing, another day something different, mood swings, staying out late, lots of cell phone calls, kids involved.
You just cannot deal rationally with someone who does not have a full deck and hasn't been rational in six months.
And yes, he is 50 years of age.