We had never felt that our marriage was hard work. I always enjoyed doing things for my husband such as make him a nice breakfast (cereal, fresh fruit, sausage, oj---you name it) and then make him a nice meal at night.
Your family continues to be in my prayers. Is your husband insured through his work? Even if he's not, he should see a doctor. A medical doctor, that is, to make sure there is no underlying physical ailment disrupting his mental acuity. If he's okay...off to a shrink!