"I believe Commitment and loyalt,y values and a GOD centered life is what keeps you in line from crossing lines.."
This is what I used to think because my husband has been a born-again Christian for about 30 years and look what is happening to us.
And we have raised our kids as christians and I as the stay at home mom who homeschooled her kids.
He needs to be purged of the evil that has led him to this. He needs to be born again again. My prayers are with him as well.
((((((HUGS))))))
Okay, now that I have hugged you and wiped away my own tears, you need to know that you are not to blame. People have marriage problems. People go without having sex for periods of time. People have other people flirt with them. This doesn't mean that an affair is the responsibility of the uncheating spouse. This is not your fault. You deserve to be loved and appreciated. This is very biblical.
To echo the sentiments of others, DO NOT LEAVE YOUR HOUSE. If this man becomes violent or threatening, call the police. Go to the best attorney you can find and see if you can work out the retainer situation. As others have said, think pit bull.
Some women I have known have slept with their husbands when they were in the middle of affairs. Bad idea. Very bad idea for health reasons.
Get copies of the cell phone records, credit card records, any e-mails that you have intercepted, etc. Take them to the attorney at the first visit. Mail a copy to your relatives, along with any personal belongings that you do not want to see destroyed.
To echo John O, you must protect yourself and your children. I would also start a bank account, have a garage sale (just your stuff), and put the proceeds in your account.
Your husband may be born again, but he certainly isn't acting like one.
Also, contact HSLDA.org. You might be able to get some free legal advice, as well as financial help, since you are homeschooling.
Your husband has abandoned your marriage, but God has not abandoned you. Nor will we.
God bless you,
Andie