I know and it will cost me $300 for a consultation with a top notch lawyer.
I am debating whether to go or not because I really don't have $300.
This is not a time to be pennywise and pound-foolish.
Find the cash and get yourself in the brown leather consultation chair.
Hate to say this, but if you think 300 is a lot of money, you're in for a rough road.
Most attorneys charge at least 100 per hour. At a minimum and that's if you're in a lower income area. In Phoenix, I'd say the going rate is between 200 and 300 an hour.
Sell some things around the house if you have to and get the lawyer on retainer. Now. Do not hesitate.
When he gets the summons, he might be a little more apprehensive in carrying on his ways.
Most lawyers do a "first consultation free" thing. Also....I don't know about your state,but here in NC we have a wonderful little thing we can sue for called ALIENATION OF AFFECTION. My aunt used this and not only got alimony but the homewrecker had to pay her too. LMAO>>> LOOK INTO IT GIRL!!!!
BEST OF LUCK
I think you will need a lawyer who will handle you're case in Pro Per....
If you are a stay at home mother this will all work out in you're behalf he will have to pay, he might not know the scope of financial ramifications he is under if he truly wants this to end...
Sometimes the spouse with money is ordered to pay the other spouse's legal bills. Of course if your husband doesn't have money either it starts coming out of assets like the house. There are legal aid societies for women but you might not like the kind of people you find there.
Do you have a pastor? Will your husband consider counseling? Can you send your children to a friend's house in the morning before he goes to work and have the pastor come over?
I have a friend whose marriage is back together again after a similar situation, so I know it can be done. He wouldn't change until she left with the children and took legal steps. But HE has to change. It might not happen.
DON'T leave. DO take legal steps. Get a lawyer, a tough honest lawyer. Seeking a separation is not the same as seeking a divorce.