Problem is is the KACTeen uses the bad stuff to reenforce the image of him at a bad boy...and I can't stop him from it. This makes me so horribly frustrated that it gnaws at me. When his birthmother and sister were killed in a traffic accident when he was 8, he was sitting in his sister's seat, and he's got bunches of survivor's guilt...
It's only the love I have for KAChubby that is keeping me here...and perhaps the knowledge that after he turns 18, if he wants to self destruct, it's his right...and that that day is only 1 year, two months and 6 days away. He will have enough money because of an inheritance and annuity (meant mostly to get him through college) to go do his own thing for four years...we will see if he matures or crashes and burns. But if he does, it will be on his own head.
well we were just discussing this the other day, bc of the writing assignment xsteen had for english. do we make our own destiny? i think we do. yes, your son was dealt a bad hand (was this your husband's son by a prior marriage?) in the situation of losing his mother and sister and feeling survivor's guilt, but we ARE responsible for ourselves and at some point, that point has to be driven home. you can be miserable and act out and claim that it is because of some horrible thing that happened to you, or you can take charge of yourself and your own life and realize your life IS what you make of it, and you really have no one but yourslf to blame at the end of the day. has he had any counseling?