Maybe Rei *isn't* all app. I'm ALWAYS telling her what to do. LOL. (since she's so big, I have to remind her that I'm the shrimpy 'boss')
This is one of our horses that I feel 100% safe with. There's just something about her. (no one ELSE thinks that way....except our twins, and Rei returns that to them ALSO)
Now, are you sure you are telling her what to do or are you just agreeing to do what she wants to do?
My mare and I used to have converstations I swear. She'd say, are you sure you want to do this? and I'd say, Yep, I'm sure - why - don't you think it's a good idea? One time she and I really argued about going up a mountain trail, and she finally went because my husband had already gone ahead on his horse. She made it real clear it was NOT a good idea. When we got to the top, we were in time to see sand still falling back into the tracks of a good size mountain lion track.
I learned something that day - if she really didn't like an idea, there was probably a good reason.