Yer a good heart. :-)
Suicide..where to start. A horrible selfishness, and a terrible loneliness. It leaves so many 'If only...' questions for everyone left behind.
I've witnessed it in my family..and I've seen it in other families.
But, I don't believe those who have passed on are damned. The Lord will give them the solace they crave. Like I said earlier, my God is all-loving, and all-forgiving.
You have a good heart yourself, and obviously full of God-given compassion for others. I'm sorry you've had to experience this sort of tragedy in your own life. Yes, God is good, loving and forgiving, and no one whould speak for Him.