You got it exactly right.
Thanks! This is a bitter lesson for a lot of folks to accept, I think. Whenever it comes up on FR, I interestingly find more support from women for my position. Men seem to react to it with more hostility.
I suspect it's that women know it's basically true (even if it does sound a little harsh), and that some men have a lot of emotional investment in being 'nice,' and they hate seeing that emotional investment undermined (by the truth).