marriage counselors are trained professionals who know how to handle things, which questions to ask, and how to tell when someone is buffalo-ing.
i'd posit that few, if any, of us are. we'ed only make things worse.
I, from the old school, had to suck it up without asking for help and figure out how to make my marriage work. I think it is grand to be able to do what he is doing.
He has the intelligence to pick through these post and toss out what looks like hokey to him. What is he again 26? He ain't no baby.