Now the next vocabulary word: sarcasm.
It's an appropriate response to presuming to tell me how I can use rhetorical devices.
Stop choking on the gnat, and look at the camel. As I said on an earlier post, why is it such a burden to ask him to put out the garbag, particularly when he isn't refusing to do it? And not turning the heat down?
Please!
I feel very much like I'm one of the only people here staring the camel directly in the eye. A man wants help growing up and describes how he is lacking in maturity in some detail, and I post some advice, which, if taken, will result in a modicum of self-discipline.
Others here have disregarded this man's cry for instruction and replaced it with all kinds of notions about his wife's unreasonableness. They have taken the camel and replaced it with a skunk. And make no mistake, these people reek of misogyny. For they are jumping all over the wife in spite of the husband's admissions of failure.
I do feel sorry for them, because their posts betray great bitterness, but at the same time, they aren't addressing the poster's admissions of failure and cries for help in a sincere way, and their cynicism cannot be constructive...for they are urging the man to blame the state of his marriage on his wife. Even if they are correct, this is no solution to the problem, because he cannot change her. If the cynics are right, and if the man wants to save his marriage, the only shred of hope he has left is to change himself into a responsible, mature adult. He can't change his wife. His only hope in light of this possible scenario is that she will want to change herself once she sees his transformation.
And if the cynics are wrong, he knows that he needs to change anyway. So why not help the guy learn some discipline and grow up, for Pete's sake? Why encourage him to blame his wife? Why not encourage him to lead her out of their morass by example? It happens all the time! It can be done!