Marriage is for adults, my friend. If you don't bring maturity to the marriage table you're handicapping yourself. This man isn't negotiating feom a position of authority, or maturity; in fact he has realized that he isn't in a position to negotiate at all. He has asked for help. To advise him to begin throwing ultimatums around won't cure his core problem, which is (as he has stated) an inability to mature into adulthood.