Listen to what your wife wants.
Sit down and draw up a list of things you need to do everyday. Type it up in a computer and put it in your pocket or wallet.
Do the same with her.
And put the Lord first, always and your son second.
If the son sees the father putting the wife's needs and desires before those of the son, he will be far more likely to treat his own wife well when the time comes that he will be married himself. The most essential thing for children is that they be raised within intact families. The wife must be first among the merely human relationships a husband has.
Do you think she would fit in his pocket?