Excellent points about the possibility of post-partum problems.
When our children were young and my husband was working many hours of overtime, I still had the primary responsibilities for housework and keeping things organized (bill paying, filing, etc.) It was very hard sometimes and there were times we both had to split the work up, like when two kids were tandem vomiting all night long or something like that.
But in general if a husband is going to work and *responsibly* supporting a wife and child (i.e. no mistresses, no porn-for-pay, no drinking parties etc.), then it's a two way street when the wife is at home with a small child. The wife in general (again, from my experience) needs to take on a lot of those household chores herself. I don't know about this particular situation, but in general it's not reasonable for a wife at home to expect her husband to do housework too. If she's working fulltime as well, then that's a different story - then they both do have to split the chores. But a woman at home is primarily a *housewife* - and that means taking care of the house as well as the child.
Sometimes it takes more then a few years to figure this all out though...: )) Men are simple....they really have very few needs they need met......
Was totally worth sticking it out..
13 years and going great : )