dude, she's lying to you. the garbage thing is merely an excuse. there's someone else in her life. dump her now and save yourself years of agony and second guessing. good luck!
It appears she is getting fed up with his selfish ways.
Courtesy and pulling his load will go a long way in a marriage.
In their marriage garbage seems to be the sticking point.
In ours, it was the toilet seat, but I broke him of that habit...and come January, it will be 33 years.
If she is lying to you and has a guy then TAKE THE KIDS!!!
You will never get them back if you dont.
You have as much legal right to them as she does right now- but during a divorce you will lose that.
Get an investigator to find out and get photographs.