Sheeesh...I'd 'advise' him to seek 'advice' somewhere else..:(
I did, and so have others, but lots of freepers are offering all kinds of advice. Pretty wild stuff. I just checked the thread - it's approaching 250 posts. I've been married for nearly 12 years now (not a long time compared to some, I know) and there have been a few bumps, but I never considered posting a vanity on any forum asking for advice!