Yes thats the way it is, and this particular group seems to have a lot of power around here, best bet is to stay the hell away from them.
BigMack
Thank you so much for clueing me in on this, I had no idea.
I guess the guy that privately mailed me wasn't one of the group and was starting to feel guilty. I notice he didn't apologize publicly, though. That group must really have people running scared and that's a shame. Too bad the mods don't put a stop to that mob mentality.