At total I had 30.5 years when I retired. The CO's wife is the go to person for the other wives when you're underway...most of our units are in small coastal communities not those huge luxury bases you folks have.
We were up at Ft. Lewis a while back when the wife heard someone talk about volunteers for benefits work; a lot of Guard/Reserve units go through there.
We've loved every minute of it. People seem to forget that our spouses and children serve just as much as we do, they just don't wear a uniform and get even less appreciation.