There's nothing wrong with working hard to not get dumped, doing anything it takes to keep from getting dumped:), just understand it's going to happen sometime and decide if you can deal with it or not. In the beginning I worried about it, but then you finally have to decide I don't care, I'm riding anyway, Or I do care, I'm not doing it anymore.
The only time a fall really bothers me now is IF the fall was because of something the horse did and I can't figure out why he did what he did. If there is a logical explanation for a fall, such as the last time I came off which was one of the times I got hurt, it still didn't bother me. I knew why the horse spun around. Deer spooked him. No one's fault. My mare on the other hand use to do stupid stuff for no apperant reason. I finally got so afraid of her I quit riding her.
You have to decide do I trust the horse or not. If it's the horse that is the problem and you don't trust him, get rid of him and get another you can trust, or give it up entirely.
Becky
Cindy, that last paragraph of my post to you, I was speaking of trusting or not trusting horses in general, not speaking of Okie.
Becky