They had problems with their children because the kids were sucked into a world of their whining peers, spoiled brats who have nothing better to do than criticize their parents and resent all authority, rather than make lives for themselves. Unhappy, unmotivated, ungrateful cretins. I have a couple like that, and no marriage to blame it on. I wish I had a husband for support and comfort for myself and a role model for my sons. But it isn't meant to be. I do not harshly judge any parent who sets a good example.
Val, I have been there and done that. I will tell you of my son, tomorrow.