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The Philippined and Philippino people are great, very nice, both men and women. But you must 'sing' - literally, and married to a Philippino, I am sure you know what I mean.

I found the following:

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I spent a long time overseas in various countries as a single man. And learned a lot about women of various nationalities/cultures. And learned a few things about men/women and also about American men/women vs others.

1. Unlike what American women think, men and women are not Equal, they are complimentary - yin and yang - two asymetical parts of a complete circle. Generally, American women think they are 'equal', and compete with men (bisecting the circle), while foreign women adapt to the non-symetry of men and enfold his foibles. This is particularly true of East Asian women. They don't want to be men. They know better. And they also know, as women, they have certain other responsibilities than men. And the way it works (a secret I never did learn) works particularly on children. I rarely saw screaming sqwaling brats, in private or public.

2. American men, are particularly appreciated by foreign women, because (money or no money) they treat their women better.

3. Perhaps most important of all, women (of all nationalities) are the bosses, due to the weakness of men, located between their legs. The major difference is that Eastern Women make the man 'think' he is the boss. And this makes the man happy, who, happily works his butt off to please and take care of his woman and his family. Sort of like the good dog, who will fight the bear to his own death to protect his master.

3. The key to the mutually good arrangement, is to never let the man find out the truth, that he is not 'the boss'. American women, often quickly, and in no uncertain terms, let the men know who is boss. And thus, men withdraw, and divorce from this forced 'servitude', called marriage, just to propagate their children. Marriages to Eastern Women often quickly fail, when they are brought to the US, and the women become 'Americanized' by the American women/society, and let the man know who is boss.

4. And women have another particular problem. They are, for some strange reason, initially attracted to 'bad boys', who treat them badly and who are very irresponsible. This is particularly true of the younger ones, before they have resposibilities and children. Thus, the old division men had about women - those you have sex with and those you marry. By being attracted to the 'bad boys', women often disregard/discard the very men they really should have in the long run. And now that all women have become those that you have sex with (equals), men can't tell the difference between the two types/stages; and women keep waiting for that 'perfect' 'white knight' who they discarded earlier. The very ones who now have little respect for women, good or bad.

5. I never could figure out why American women wanted to be 'equal' to men, and come DOWN to our level. It seems like a lose/lose situation, for individuals and for society.