[SCalGal]

That is one chick that I wouldn't spend 5 minutes with. She is a "changer" ... one of the types that lures you in initially by pretending to be something you would like, then once you are hooked, slowly manipulates you into becoming more what she had in mind originally. Those relationships have a 5 or 6 month shelf-life, max. Much less, if you are lucky.

What is it with women who want a man to change? Honestly, I don't get it.

[Mr. Jeeves]

What is it with women who want a man to change? Honestly, I don't get it.

I guess they've been cultivating a male archetype since they got their first Ken doll, and if they can't make a man match the model their lives will be simply ruined.

[Marie]

What is it with women who want a man to change? Honestly, I don't get it.

If you think that there is a relationship in the world that doesn't require both parties to change in very fundamental ways to make it work, you're wrong. Yes guys, you are going to have to change. Habits, perceptions, knee-jerk reactions, time management... sometimes even diet. And yes girls. YOU, ALSO, WILL HAVE TO CHANGE. In the best relationships, both parties willingly change for the better and are happier for it.

Women see the flaws in their men easier than they can admit their own. That is OUR biggest flaw. (Actually, I believe that is a human flaw, but I digress...) Thus, many times we're right about what the husband has to change. The problem is, too much of the time we drop our end of the couch in that department.