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The thing I know from Sonya's that I don't want is to have this big "picture taking" session before the wedding. She was nervous, hot sick and miserable for one (she hadn't eaten or slept for two days, I don't picture being that stressed).... but also because it took all the meaning out of the event. By the time they did their vows they had been posing together for two hours, as if the event was not about getting married, but about being photographed getting married.

Pictures will be during the event and a few posed shots afterwards, but mixed in with having a good day.

Good plan IMO!

Maybe I oughtta not talk about things with Dennis so much, but I thought we had a really cool wedding. We knew we didn't want any posing sessions either. We had a lot of friends who *really* love photography. We asked them all to bring a camera and offered to pay for their film and developing if they'd just take photos during the whole thing. (this was pre-digital of course) Turned out no one took us up on offers of payment but we got loads of really cool photos - both during the wedding and afterward.

Since he and I both had places of our own at that time and had lived together off and on for 4 years anyway there were no gifts that we needed. No need to register and all that stuff. So, we asked all our good friends to bring food - a potluck sorta like you said - cept we wanted picnic stuff, sammiches, chips, dips that sort of thing. My friend Martha volunteered to coordinate everyone's dishes so I didn't even have to mess with that. Martha knew who was bringing what and just did it. It was awesome!!!

We had cool wedding cakes too. Brides cake and grooms cake. Didn't even have to pay for those either! One of 'em I traded an old computer I had sittin' around for and Aunt Cheryl and Uncle Lynn bought the other as their wedding gift. Turned out our wedding cost nobody much of anything 'cept the cost of one batch of food to bring. And EVERYONE had a great time!