I picked up on one word you correctly used as you described how and why bad things happen to good people.
Divorce.
In my life and career, I’ve seen countless cases of divorce forever ruing any and all chances of financial stability.
The divorce lawyers make sure all savings are depleted. Then things get worse.
Better to be unhappily married than miserably divorced. Don’t think so? Then look at the millions of old lonely divorced people who no longer lived quite nicely as they once did; but live miserably in a single wide.
Alone.
The worst of all possible worlds — you go a little nuts, are paranoid or schizophrenic plus divorce plus lawyers.
A friend is getting divorced because she is convinced her husband was cheating. She is convinced he stashed away huge sums hidden from her. The divorce isn’t final after four (maybe five) years and she’s now on her fifth attorney because “they are all incompetent.” They sold the house and split it (a great sum); her half of those assets are gone to the lawyers. This is a very highly educated woman, too. She has lost all of her friends because all she can talk about is the divorce, her scheming lawyers, and her cheating husband. The husband has presented fair settlements many times and she has rejected all of them because he is not “revealing all the money he hid away.” This is truly Captain Ahab and the Great White Whale in real life.
It is so bad, even lawyers don’t want her anymore!
Excellent point.
Well, I am about to be divorced. My future ex-wife has shown zero interest in me for over 5 years; barely talking about the kids, bills, whatever, during that time. I’d rather be alone for the right reasons, than be with someone for the wrong reasons.