Posted on 12/28/2016 11:24:58 AM PST by rhett october
Does your wife yell, scream, and swear at you? Do you feel like you can’t talk to anyone about your relationship because they just wouldn’t understand? Is your relationship making you feel like you’re slowly going crazy?
If so, you’re probably involved with a woman who is an emotionally abusive bully. Most men don’t want to admit that they’re in an abusive relationship. They describe the relationship and their wife using other terms like crazy, emotional, controlling, bossy, domineering, constant conflict, or volatile. If you use words like this to describe your relationship, odds are you’re being emotionally abused.
Do you recognize any of the following behaviors?
1) Bullying. If she doesn’t get her way, there’s hell to pay. She wants to control you and resorts to emotional intimidation to do it. She uses verbal assaults and threats in order to get you to do what she wants. It makes her feel powerful to make you feel bad. People with a Narcissistic personality are often bullies.
Result: You lose your self-respect and feel outnumbered, sad, and alone. You develop a case of Stockholm Syndrome, in which you identify with the aggressor and actually defend her behavior to others.
2) Unreasonable expectations. No matter how hard you try and how much you give, it’s never enough. She expects you to drop whatever you’re doing and attend to her needs...
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It’s not only women that act this way....
“The two most important words in marriage: yes dear.”
Well said. I think women respect men who don’t allow women (or anyone) to walk all over them. It’s almost as though they resent men who are passive and allow them to act like spoiled children. I remember my grandfather putting up with a somewhat entitled woman, but he did so without yelling and always seeming like he didn’t get rattled. I think that’s important as well.
bkmk
Women can be just as abusive and sexually domineering as men.
I don’t know what I would do if my husband and I did not love, lift and protect each other. Just thank God we ended up together! Our parents sure were not models for us. We just lucked out, I guess. Maybe it helped that we both know and love Jesus.
Absolutely.
Women are attracted to strong men and don't respect men who aren't. (whether they admit it or not)
Keep on keepin on. It gets better.
OMG...and she does???
Laura S says that for better or worse women set the tone of the home.
Yes. Remarkable.
She knows me well. The other day, I was using a new GPS unit in the car that has voice capability, so you can say “find address” then tell it the address. It works well, most of the time, but sometimes there are certain things it just won’t get, not that it doesn’t recognize the voice, but because it can’t find the address.
So, here I am getting exasperated with it, and she begins to giggle, because she thinks this is so funny that I can’t get it to recognize me (part of my job is to maintain a speech recognition system) and she is laughing at me openly...I said something like “I know you find this hilarious, but it is really pissing me off you could you give it a break?” or something like that. She laid off, but I could see her trying to suppress a smirk...
It made me laugh...I get tunnel vision on unimportant things sometimes, and she knows how to get me back to earth. And, she also knows when I can’t be deterred from something, and just have to work it out on my own.
I’ll tell ya, I got it made!
Bump
Describes my first ex-wife to a “T!”
Got ALOT smarter the second time around!
All was a broad generalization
I do not know all women
I think two generations before me women were more Melanie and less Scarlett
Actually even Scarlett would be an angel compared to many today
Men are just hapless
My wife likes it when I do the pre-wash on my work clothes in the bathtub. Then she knows that the tub will be sparkling clean when I’m done!
One thing that I appreciate about my wife is she only talks good about me to other people. She’ll even say “Oh - he has his faults, but I don’t tell others about them.” (Often in an effort to get the other women to quit berating their husbands.) I’m the same way.
Ephesians 5 gives some good advice....
21Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
22Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansingb her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30for we are members of his body. 31“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”c 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
That is really terrific! Mine was actually similar.
I was all meloncoly (at 43 I lived with my parents for a month or so) and went to my 25 year class reunion, where I met my now wife. She lived in South Dakota and had flown to Seattle for the reunion. The same thing had just happened to her. I fell in love just talking with her at Shakeys. We didn’t “get together”, but she gave me her address and phone number.
850 emails, $3,500 in long distance calls and two months later, she came out to Seattle for a few days and I proposed on that trip.
Men are just more up front about things, if they are not the sort that just clams up to avoid conflict.
I was thinking moire of the passive/aggressive types, and believe me, they exist.
No conflict whatsoever. They shut down every time without even a whimper.
So it’s not a matter of making a wise decision to back off and cool off.
It’s their way of manipulating.
My class called it “The silent knight”.
And yes, it is definitely a form of abuse.
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