Posted on 12/28/2016 11:24:58 AM PST by rhett october
Does your wife yell, scream, and swear at you? Do you feel like you can’t talk to anyone about your relationship because they just wouldn’t understand? Is your relationship making you feel like you’re slowly going crazy?
If so, you’re probably involved with a woman who is an emotionally abusive bully. Most men don’t want to admit that they’re in an abusive relationship. They describe the relationship and their wife using other terms like crazy, emotional, controlling, bossy, domineering, constant conflict, or volatile. If you use words like this to describe your relationship, odds are you’re being emotionally abused.
Do you recognize any of the following behaviors?
1) Bullying. If she doesn’t get her way, there’s hell to pay. She wants to control you and resorts to emotional intimidation to do it. She uses verbal assaults and threats in order to get you to do what she wants. It makes her feel powerful to make you feel bad. People with a Narcissistic personality are often bullies.
Result: You lose your self-respect and feel outnumbered, sad, and alone. You develop a case of Stockholm Syndrome, in which you identify with the aggressor and actually defend her behavior to others.
2) Unreasonable expectations. No matter how hard you try and how much you give, it’s never enough. She expects you to drop whatever you’re doing and attend to her needs...
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Heh, you poor man!
Nice. I like that.
My wife exhibits next to none of those behaviors. I think I’ll keep her then!
Hence a huge reason to study empty-hands martial arts: by understanding hand-to-hand combat & techniques (blocks and locks), the “violence” can be gently & firmly removed from the scenario, with clarification that it _can_ be horribly escalated if need be.
“You have to sleep sometime.”
I actually had a girlfriend say that to me. Then she mentioned something about rolling me up in the bed sheet and beating me with a cricket bat (we were in England at the time).
Before my wife and I were married, we had a heart-to-heart, and I told her I wasn’t the kind to play mind games. I said that if something was bothering her, just tell me straight, don’t approach it obliquely, or let it sit and fester. Just tell me. Because if you try to pass hints, or expect me to figure it out...I won’t. I said I will ask if anything is wrong, and if you say no, I will take it at face value and go from there.
I sometimes think that one conversation in particular has saved her much grief. I can be a very moody person, and God bless her, she knows sometimes when to just leave me alone to stew.
And, vice versa.
I Use to Love You - Gwen Stefani
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zeT_nYtjgTQ
I don’t know why, but that made me LOL...
A “cricket bat”. I know, not funny, but...something hit my funny bone there. I suppose that makes me somehow a bad person for laughing at the concept of spousal abuse!
Amen. After I got divorced, I told God I wanted to be happily married some day, but that I was not going to go out and look for a man, that He’d have to bring one to me. Six years later, a man walked into my place of work, and the minute I saw him, I knew he was the one. After we had spent hours on the phone with each other, he confided in me that a couple of weeks before we met, he had re-dedicated his life to the Lord, and had asked God to bring him a Godly woman. We’ve been happily married for fourteen years.
I just took a look and howled! Very funny! Here's another great one:
If you haven’t seen that video, watch it - it’s hilarious - and the tranny part is also.
My husband and I told each other that same thing. It’s been working for going on 28 years so far.
You don’t get it do you? This is not about a game, but about the worst sort of situation a man can get into with a woman.
Re-read the part of my earlier post about who is gonna get arrested if the cops are called.
The men in these situations have been “programmed” by their families of origin (usually an abusive mother) to seek out a similar type of woman, and then to submit to the abuse, like they did as a child.
If that background doesn’t fit you, you are not at risk to wind up in this type of situation, and if you do, you’ll know just to “walk away” from the relationship.
LOL!
Never heard the song, but...it was sad.
I guess that must be one of the most tragic and sad things about a relationship that has gone south...the fact that many people cannot even recall that time, once upon a time, where they DID love that person.
I guess when you reach that point, it is like reading history in a book, knowing it is true, but not believing it or feeling it.
I never knew women knew about "blanket parties"!
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