Posted on 10/02/2014 2:47:17 PM PDT by NYer
Wrongful Birth.
It is a legal term rooted in deep narcissism and dressed in the clothing of contract law. Translated, it means some parent didn’t get what they hoped for, or paid for when their child was born. Somebody screwed up and the wrong product was delivered. It’s a form of business and/or medical malpractice.
Wrongful Birth.
The very words reveal the ugly side of human nature, the neurotic side of the human psyche where human fear meets with human failure, and growth becomes a forced issue, and someone has to pay a price for it.
Consider the white lesbian couple in Ohio who ordered sperm from a sperm bank, expecting sperm from a donor with a certain genetic (Caucasian) and personal profile. What they were sent was sperm from a black man, and what resulted was a mixed race baby. Read the story here.
It’s a truly tragic story, and heartbreaking that a child should be born into such poverty of spirit, especially to a lesbian mother who should have learned a thing or two about oppression and survival. Consider the following quotes from the story in Mail Online.
Jennifer Cramblett, 36, claims the mistake has caused her stress and anguish because her family is racist and she lives in a small, all-white Uniontown in northeast Ohio…
Ms Cramblett [sic] she has ‘limited cultural competency relative to African-Americans’ and worries that her daughter Payton will not be accepted in her hometown of Uniontown.
‘Jennifer lives each day with fears, anxieties and uncertainty about her future and Payton’s future,’ according to the lawsuit.
Is it understandable that a woman coming from a family she labels “racist” would also claim to have “limited cultural competency” to raise a mixed race child?
No, it isn’t.
In labeling her family as racist, Ms. Cramblett identifies herself as somehow above it all. That is the necessary precondition for self-education in gaining cultural competence in the raising of her mixed race child. But that, too, begs the question. Why does this child need to be singled out as something other? How, exactly, should she be raised compared to potential future siblings who are white? Is that not itself racist? And then there is the matter of living, “each day with fears, anxieties and uncertainty about her future and Payton’s future.”
Do these lesbians see the world so categorically that they actually think that living, “each day with fears, anxieties and uncertainty about her future and Payton’s future,” is not something every single parent on the planet experiences?
There’s more:
Even simple tasks have become more complicated because Payton is mixed-race, the lawsuit says.
‘Payton has hair typical of an African American girl. To get a decent cut, Jennifer must travel to a black neighborhood, far from where she lives, where she is obviously different in appearance, and not overtly welcome,’ according to the lawsuit.
Again, note the objectification of blacks by this mother. What does it take beyond a universal smile and common courtesy for people of different ethnicities to develop warm and cordial relationships? So what is this woman getting at?
On the one hand, she doesn’t feel culturally competent, then castigates an entire community of color when she brings the child to a hairdresser who can do the child’s hair some justice. And as for traveling out of one’s way? Heterosexuals do it all the time for their children. It comes with being a parent. God forbid she should turn it into a quality mommy-daughter day out.
The article ends with the mother saying that in a few years when her daughter begins school, she may be the only black child in her class in her small, rural town, and this worries her. An indictment of the entire community. But how small-minded can the community be if she and her lesbian partner live there?
For a mother so ostensibly concerned with her daughter being picked on by racist family, tortured by racist classmates and neighbors, failed culturally by her mother, she has chosen to label the little girl a mistake, a wrongful birth, a human who never should have been. All because of a little extra melanin and some different hair.
For all their talk of tolerance, and openness, and inclusivity, and compassion, it isn’t unreasonable to expect gays and lesbians to put their money where their collective mouth is. One would expect a lesbian couple, of all people, to abhor the notion of “wrongful birth,” claiming a genetic etiology for their own orientation as they do.
Pity the child born to such poverty and bigotry.
In a case like this, the sperm is a commodity. Don’t act oblivious to the facts here. This is one of the mistakes a sperm bank cannot and should not make. Yes, now there is a child involved, but the business still goofed up in the worst way possible. They are liable and should be held to account, just as if they mistakenly gave the mother AIDS from their product or something of that nature. I have no idea what, if anything, should be done vis a vis the child, but I do know that the sperm bank made a huge mistake.
“Posting of the day.”
I appreciate the honor.
I’ll go on record against option #4.
These two nut jobs should not EVER be allowed to adopt any child. Their actions prove it.
It’s not nice to fool Mother Nature...
I hope social services is not going to let this woman keep that baby. That would be the greatest disservice...
I hope social services is not going to let this woman keep that baby. That would be the greatest disservice...
Oh no, the cursed Obola double post...I am going to have to quarantine my laptop now...
Indeed, that is the first thing that came to my mind when I read this story. And the first thing her new family should do is give her a new name--a real girl's name, like Lisa, Linda, Pamela, Ann or Nannette. Payton sounds like the name of a boy destined to be a football player.
The sad part is the child is likely to get more flak from her peers and adults for having lesbian parents rather than for being bi-racial.
This couple is deluded about what challenges their child might face in the future ... but it doesn’t matter because it’s all about them anyway.
Aw, too bad, so sad. She could have pretended to be straight a few times and gone natural but spin the wheel, take the deal....
The fertility clinic has learned the truth of the expression, “Once you’ve had black, you never go back.”
You pays your money, you takes your chances.
Not very tolerant, is she?
If she feels this incompetent to raise the child, why not put it up for adoption?
Somebody going to take that precious baby away from this queer idiot?
I think that the child would be better off with a real mother (female) and father (male). It’s a win-win.
God bless this dear little girl.
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This not about racism, it's about MONEY. These girls are going after the sperm bank the way some people *slip &fall* in a supermarket and then sue the supermarket.
Believe me, I have known people that do this. They make a living at it.
So is that picture of the butterfly some kind of Rorschach test?
I’ve been staring at it for ten minutes and all I see is a splotchy butterfly wing.
I suppose it’s not appropriate to tell these people to “divorce” and find men whom they actually know to create children as God intended?
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