I’ve looked at some stuff. People who don’t look at everything are useless in my opinion. Some details seem weird, and I vividly remember a father giving a press conference that seemed odd in the extreme. A dead daughter would, SHOULD make it impossible to smile for days, if not weeks. He seemed genuinely jovial moments before starting, and solemnly trying to get into character before talking. I would be a zombie.
There's no hard and fast rule. My sister lost her only daughter at age ten. Her deep faith was sustaining and strengthening. She wore white to the funeral and rejoiced at the thoughts of her little girl being embraced by Jesus.
HAve you actually lost a child to a violent crime?