The basic principle is to treat others with respect; and expect respect back. But we also believed in "punishing the first insult."
For those who are interested, here is Washington's Farewell Address, which sets forth the principles. Or to put the matter into a contemporary perspective, here is the "Debate" I staged by putting George W. Bush's Second Inaugural Address into juxtaposition with the key passages in Washington's address: Washington / Bush Debate.
William Flax