Yep it’s called “guilt parenting” especially in the case of divorce or where one parent “befriends” the children instead of being a united front with the other parent. Then it’s one parent and one child against the other parent. The child senses a divided household and plays it for all it’s worth.
Yep, I also think it adds to that unstable feeling. A child out of control. Kids need boundaries, whether they say so our not, it makes them feel safe. Someone is in control. I’m not a shrink but, I play one on FB...lol I do however think it can lead to a kind of madness. To a mindset of, I can do no wrong, if something goes wrong it’s someone else’s fault. And everything is acceptable for me, I can justify anything I do, kind of mentality.