Yep, I also think it adds to that unstable feeling. A child out of control. Kids need boundaries, whether they say so our not, it makes them feel safe. Someone is in control. I’m not a shrink but, I play one on FB...lol I do however think it can lead to a kind of madness. To a mindset of, I can do no wrong, if something goes wrong it’s someone else’s fault. And everything is acceptable for me, I can justify anything I do, kind of mentality.
I’m not a shrink either, but I counsel non-custodial step moms that have 2nd husbands who feel they have to placate their children to counteract the mother’s trashing of him and stepmom to the children while in her custody. I have done this on a different website for about four years now.
Also their 2nd husbands have to “compete with their own wallet” during visitation as mother plays the role of her child’s best friend instead of parent and uses HIS child support payment to make it appear that “all good things come from mom.”
So basically the dad is holding the bag financially (state sponsored of course; if he doesn’t pay child support he can be thrown into debtor’s prison) yet is cut out of his children’s lives by mom and there goes what little “father influence” he had (once again, state sponsored through NOT enforcing court ordered visitation)
If mom says dad is a rotten bum in front of the children 24/7 and decides to “withhold” visitation, she knows there are no repercussions to this behavior.
Thus uber spoiled, narcissistic, entitled, failing academically and socially, coddled and “chick-i-fied” children with no respect for any adult or authority and quite often pumped full of ADHD meds and “happy pills.” (See Obama) These children have “adult spousal status” and have been inappropriately been made adult confidants most often by the custodial “single” mom.
Brought to you by the Women’s Liberation Movement, the NOW gang and militant feminism.
Just watch the commercials. Dad is a mouth breathing dummy whilst mom and children are so much more clever and intelligent.