The second is the privacy approach, removing the ‘sex’ field from the marriage license (ie, it isn’t Big Brother’s business what sex or sexual orientation anyone is).
I lean to states’ rights...but not with portablility. I think marriage between two same sexers is crazy...wildly anti-social...and destructive...but if a state says marriage is legal in your state, don’t move to one where it isn’t - or you are no longer married. Same would go for civil unions, or anything else that a state would sanely be able to regulate...then we could all find a home state with laws we like and let MA, CT, NY and CA go (further) to hell... “The powers not delegated to the United States by the Constitution, nor prohibited by it to the States, are reserved to the States respectively, or to the people.”
Our real problem is judicial activism; that’s where ALL this starts becuase they know that they can’t possibly originally get this through any sane legislature. It’s only later when it’s too late that they try to manipulate public opinion in certain states.
Get controll of the courts, and we get controll of “gay marriage”, by-and-large!