[Antoninus]

And those are the only two possible scenarios? There's nothing in between?

When listing examples, it's not necessary to give an exhaustive list. Don't you fit into either of those categories?

[linda_22003]

By your categorization, I probably do. However, I think making the conscious decision not to have children because of one spouse's complete lack of interest and ability, and the other spouse's background in an insane, broken family, is actually a responsible decision.