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Here is a take most people don't think of. These are the differences between my mom and my mother-in-law. My mother was a stay at home mom and was miserable. She was the stereotype of a housewife. She worked to keep the house clean and serve my stepdad. When I was at school she spent her time watching soaps. When I would try to talk to her she did not have time. Once when she asked if I wanted to be a housewife and take care of my husband, I said "no way". I was going to have a career. I didn't want to be a servant. I actually am a stay-at-home mom. I don't have time to get bored or watch soaps. I try to read, keep up on current events, and educate myself. I do wish my house were cleaner, though. LOL! My children have plenty of time with me.
My husband's parents divorced when my husband was seven. She was suddenly a single mom of four. It was hard work. But, when she came home, she was always available to talk to her children.
The difference is giving as much as you can while with your children. I would have personally preferred having a mom who worked and was there for me emotionally (my dad worked and was there when I needed him), rather than having a mother who was home, but was miserable and only there physically.

I think what it all comes down to is love. Who do you love, and who loves you, how much do you love them and do you know how good it really feels to be loved by someone, do you recognize the difference, has someone shown you so much love that you are able to love others that much and know the difference.

There ain't suppose to be so much discussin of "how well am I doing it or am I doing it enough". Moms just used to be crazy about their kids and wanted nothing else more than to be with them all the time, and when they where not with them they where thinking of them constantly and doing things for them while they waited for their returns. That is/was love and they way it used to work I think most of the time.

But a percentage of hearts have grown cold for different reasons and they do not care, are not able to love, don't know or realize that they are not even "doing" it right, and it is not cause the children are unloveable.

Love is a decision, not just a feeling, and in this day and age with SO many distractions parent HAVE TO work even harder at not allowing themselves to be distracted from LOVING their children, they decide to love, decide to turn off the tv, skip the women's selfish magazines, skip answering the phone and all the women in the neighborhood who would love to entice you to coffee clutch or whatever, hang out, and avoid the kids and husband. Kids just want you with them, that is it, nothing else,