My argument has nothing to do with cold or unmaternal. I simply stated that most women are unreconciled to the arrangement of leaving the rearing of their children to someone else while they work outside the home. But, apparently, chiapet is not one of those. She chooses this over the alternative.
By asserting the "norm" that women are unreconciled to having their children in daycare and then pointing out that chiapet is a "rare bird" for not being the norm you assert, you tacitly endorse the idea that there must be something "wrong" with her, i.e., she must be unmaternal. I certainly think this is what many people would take from your statements. Elsewise, what difference does it make?