[workerbee]

My argument has nothing to do with cold or unmaternal. I simply stated that most women are unreconciled to the arrangement of leaving the rearing of their children to someone else while they work outside the home. But, apparently, chiapet is not one of those. She chooses this over the alternative.

By asserting the "norm" that women are unreconciled to having their children in daycare and then pointing out that chiapet is a "rare bird" for not being the norm you assert, you tacitly endorse the idea that there must be something "wrong" with her, i.e., she must be unmaternal. I certainly think this is what many people would take from your statements. Elsewise, what difference does it make?

[anniegetyourgun]

I never said she was not normal or unmaternal - you are drawing such inference. I'm pointing out that she is an exception, in that she has options and chooses this one. Most women are never reconciled to such an arrangement and would not choose it. Many, however, must work outside the home (or feel that they have no option) - and simply live with the inner conflict. Therein is the "difference."