Skip to comments.'Who's your Daddy?' A Liberal's Plea for Dad ...
Posted on 10/24/2004 7:00:58 AM PDT by gobucks
The big picture here at FR is that Kerry is a loser, and Bush is a winner, and we like it that way. We ZOT trolls and clear up misunderstandings (e.g., Hitler was a bona fide leftist).
We fight here at FR, and fight well. But there is one fight most of us Dads here do not fight; at least we don't fight it overtly. We permit liberal orphans to remain orphans. When they cry 'Who's your Daddy?', they don't cry out for you, but for the Dad they never had.
Curing someone of the deception of liberalism is not that hard to do. But the willingness to get really dirty has to be present. Liberals tend to be dirty. Their hearts, minds ... and apartments. Why?
Because the Dad of your average Joe and Joette Liberal was missing. Oh, there's a 50/50 chance some guy may be 'present'. But typically, he is a boy trapped in a man's body.
Liberal men are essentially not masculine, because the masculine man was missing during their youth. Liberal women are not feminine for the same reason. The Dad, the way Dad is supposed to be, simply wasn't there. Thus, male liberals, as J.F. Kerry so completely demonstrates, struggle terribly with 'chasing manhood'. Female liberals struggle terribly with acting like men. Both types are usually miserable, and instead of seeking out Dad for comfort, they find each other, and go 'aha!' in recognition, falsely believing they have found their soul mates.
But the secret to getting a liberal to grow up is to change the focus from manhood to dadhood, and then actually be a Dad to that Liberal in your life who didn't get that when they needed it. Most liberals don't have the faintest idea what it feels like to have a real Dad around; and when they experience it for the first time, the recoil in horror at the 'unknown'. Some may consider this an overstatement. Sorry, but it's not.
If there is an actual intact liberal household with one husband and one wife, that guy is usually someone who at his finest hour splits decision making with his wife. Mostly, he is a retreater, quiet, and weak. He defers to 'Mom', b/c that is what he grew up watching anyway. 'Mom' grew up watching the same thing. They breath together in this reality of shared experience. They pass Dadlessness on to their children.
It's obvious listening to FR voices that most of you had strong Dads in your lives. He was Dad, and during the big conflicts, he almost always had the final say. Oh, there might be a few who protest loudly and say that Mom, and only Mom was present and solely responsible for the rock solid conservative values they hold. But it's not common, and that 'Mom' is usually echoing the strongness of her own Dad that did not fail her.
Fighting Liberalism, destroying communism, ridiculing socialism .... we at FR are good at this. But, what about curing Liberals of Liberalism? Some, yes some, liberals actually want to be liberated from the bondage that is so often associated with being 'liberal'. Take it from me, a reformed conservative; for a long time I was a nearly deformed liberal. In other words, liberals, and conservatives, either one, are originally 'formed'. And Dad is the one who ultimately holds the key.
But it requires that a Dad show up in a Liberal's life. Reformation will not usually occur by reading some post written by a ticked-off conservative. Don't get me wrong. I am about as ticked off at liberals as anyone here at FR. What I am proposing is that some of you, during your daily interactions with the 'enemy', take the attitude that a few of the lost want to know what being 'Dadded' feels like.
I'm suggesting that the Dads here at FR actually take some time to do this from a kind-hearted perspective. As much as I can't stand, oh say, Maureen Dowd, the fact is that she must have been betrayed by her 'Dad' somehow. She doesn't write like a normal woman who was loved by her Dad. She writes like a woman who is seriously ticked off at men in general. Why? Because in her daily morning commute, not one 'Dad' out there looks her in the eye and says, 'You look nice today'.
(And I really don't think she is pretty for what its worth - but that doesn't matter. My point is every woman, pretty or not, hungers to be pretty. They are wired for that. Dad is usually the first one in her life to tell her she is 'pretty'. I'm betting here and now that when Maureen was a girl, she never heard those words from her Dad).
Most of you reading this I'm sure are thinking 'duh', and that I state the obvious. But, I am sure also that most FR types here are so fed up with the utter resistance they face when dealing with liberals that they have thrown up their hands, and drive home to their cul-de-sac festooned, Homeowner's-Association-protected, sanctuary, and get on with it. I sure as heck like mine.
So in summary, we here at FreeRepublic too often shout 'they are thinking it wrongly, and they are doing it so wrongly!!!!' But, from a Liberal's perspective we look like this:
Not often enough, do we stop, ponder, and then reach out and show these folks how it's done. Dads, I'm telling you, there is a liberal out there waiting to be shown 'how its done'. The risk is worth the payoff.
It's like a golf swing. You can say all you want, 'your grip is too weak; you're not coming from the inside; you need to keep your head level'. But the man who hungers to hit that ball straight has heard that over and over and over. Dad, talk a bit less, and show that boy how to swing, and he'll imitate you.
At FR, we need to look more like this to the Liberals who look our way:
Followed the tagline link to the U of Richmond. I believe they're "The Spiders".....(laocoon sculpture)
I never knew that. That site had the photo, so I simply linked to it...
my name, gobucks, however does provide a hint :)
Tampa'd be bucs, I think, so I'm guessing Milwaukee....n'less there's a college "bucks"...don't know one, so yeah...Wisconsin, that's the ticket...:)
ping (I noticed you have an interest in the topic...)
very interesting reading.
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