Posted on 09/03/2017 11:34:00 AM PDT by EdnaMode
Thanks to cheap sex, marriage may be doomed.
The share of Americans ages 25-34 who are married dropped 13 percentage points from 2000 to 2014. A new book by sociologist Mark Regnerus blames this declining rate on how easy it is for men to get off.
Regnerus calls it “cheap sex,” an economic term meant to describe sex that has very little cost in terms of time or emotional investment, giving it little value.
Regnerus bases his ideas, in part, on the work of British social theorist Anthony Giddens, who argued that the pill isolated sex from marriage and children. Add online pornography and dating sites to the mix and you don’t even need relationships.
The result is “two overlapping (but distinctive) markets, one for sex and one for marriage, with a rather large territory in between comprised of significant relationships of varying commitment and duration,” Regnerus writes in “Cheap Sex: The Transformation of Men, Marriage, and Monogamy” (Oxford University Press).
In generations past, women generally made men wait until marriage to have sex. To get a wife (and, therefore, sex), men had to be clean and presentable and have a good job. This, Regnerus reasons, gave men all the motivation they needed to become respectable members of society.
Now with porn on-demand and greater reproductive freedom, sex is a commodity available at any time. This has left men with little motivation for marriage, writes Regnerus, who cites demographer Steven Ruggles’ prediction that one of every three people in their 20s will never marry.
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Please tell me you’re not serious with this post.
Ha! And there you have it!
Well said AW.
I was fortunate with my parents (especially my Mom) and my nuns who did teach or try to teach that but so many didn’t even know. Or didn’t understand.
I think you watch too much porn. You’ve been warped.
No, your posts make your point and we all see it.Or at least some of us do, lol.
You win the thread for the most moronic post and the theme of the thread. It’s all about those awful, whorey women. I hope none of the men on this thread have daughters. Or sisters. Or mothers. What an embarrassment to them they are.
Oh I agree. Please don’t. Being an American or Americanized is just awful. RME.
I waited and I wasn’t extremely religious. Just waited for the right one and I found him.
Yes, and I was glad that she finally stopped stalking me.
Not me. If anything happened in my marriage, I’d take as much as I could get. I’m practical. I stayed home to raise the kids, which we both wanted me to do and put my career on hold.
My pride takes a back seat to reality.
>Yes, the shame always fell on the unwed mother, never the unwed father.
That’s BS and you know it. Many men have had their lives and carers destroyed over getting someone pregnant.
But hey, you got your “feminist” equality now. There’s only shame on the fathers for not sticking around (even though in most cases it’s the mother who cuts them off) and nothing but praise for single mothers. How’s that working for America?
Me too. And he should be very thankful for me, too.
Agree with this part...
not actually as love needy as men despite the conventional wisdom
And menopause is a real bitch....whew
True.
Yep, NJ here too. But even in South Philly, it’s just the way it was/is done.
I’m as far from a feminist as one can be.
Yes, many men, my brother included, have had their lives destroyed after a divorce. The kids suffered the most and still do.
But, back when I was growing up, and before my time, the unwed fathers weren’t held accountable or shamed. It was the girl who was shamed.
Now, unwed motherhood/single mothers are lauded for some reason and the fathers are screwed. And it’s screwing American Society.
But back then, historically, only the unwed mothers were shamed. Now they are cheered as single mothers/parents. One extreme to the other. Both suck.
>But, back when I was growing up, and before my time, the unwed fathers weren’t held accountable or shamed. It was the girl who was shamed.
When you were growing up grandfathers to be still used shotguns to encourage marriage if their daughters got knocked up.
Shame is a more effective tool on women than on men.
Happily married to a guy for 25 years. He’s mature unlike a lot of you.
Never met a woman who admitted she like a “spankie.” Sorry.
This is such a weird thread.
What do you look like? Does she get to choose your body weight?
Some of you guys sound like morons. I’m sorry.
The owners of the site perhaps agree with the awful guys posting on this thread. Who knows? Hatred of women is not part of conservative ideology.
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