Posted on 09/03/2017 11:34:00 AM PDT by EdnaMode
Thanks to cheap sex, marriage may be doomed.
The share of Americans ages 25-34 who are married dropped 13 percentage points from 2000 to 2014. A new book by sociologist Mark Regnerus blames this declining rate on how easy it is for men to get off.
Regnerus calls it “cheap sex,” an economic term meant to describe sex that has very little cost in terms of time or emotional investment, giving it little value.
Regnerus bases his ideas, in part, on the work of British social theorist Anthony Giddens, who argued that the pill isolated sex from marriage and children. Add online pornography and dating sites to the mix and you don’t even need relationships.
The result is “two overlapping (but distinctive) markets, one for sex and one for marriage, with a rather large territory in between comprised of significant relationships of varying commitment and duration,” Regnerus writes in “Cheap Sex: The Transformation of Men, Marriage, and Monogamy” (Oxford University Press).
In generations past, women generally made men wait until marriage to have sex. To get a wife (and, therefore, sex), men had to be clean and presentable and have a good job. This, Regnerus reasons, gave men all the motivation they needed to become respectable members of society.
Now with porn on-demand and greater reproductive freedom, sex is a commodity available at any time. This has left men with little motivation for marriage, writes Regnerus, who cites demographer Steven Ruggles’ prediction that one of every three people in their 20s will never marry.
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They had a lot of help from men too. Yet men now complain about it. Imagine that.
Excellent reply and thanks for posting it.
I’m so happy I don’t live in your world and that my kids don’t live in your world. How depressing.
>You should be a Muslim.
You seem to have issue with tradition Christian marriage. I suggest you head over to XX on reddit and be with your own kind.
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>The wimmin-haters need to get a caucus designation here so that we wimmin can’t comment. Check out the guy who thinks Muslims handle women well! He’s a pip.
How’s divorce treating you?
LMAO nobody puts me in my place or any place in their little minds. WTH? I’ve been married for 28 years and raised 4 kids.I thank God for my husband and your post makes me thank the heavens he ain’t nothing like you.
And we wonder why we went from one extreme to the other extreme in our society...this post and this thinking is why.
It’s not just out of shape blobs much of the turn off is ATTITUDE.
People are filled with angst and are set of like a tinderbox on stupid issues.
As men became more effeminate and women more macculine, we lost the status of the classic roles and approaches.
Losing G-d, family and country created this void.
Just think back to the Archie Bunker TV show theme song...
“And you knew who you were then,
Girls were girls and men were men...
It’s only the last few years I’ve seen it this bad but it’s been a complaint for my entire time here. On both sides.
As did women.
>Too many MGTOWs are fat, beta losers.
All MGTOW are by definition losers because they leave no children. Of course MGTOW is pretty normal in collapsing civilizations. The Romans tried passing taxes to force men to marry but the men refused because because wives were not beholden to their marriage vows.
And in some families, it’s common to live at home until one is married or needs/wants to throw money away on an apartment, etc. Or until one can buy a home of their own. Or gets a job out of the area,etc. If they’re contributing members of the family/household, what’s the big deal about living at home?
That’s the reason the marriage rate is so low in the black community. Culturally, it is uncool for black women to be faithful. They “gotta get their groove on.”
Well said, livius.
True!
>That’s the reason the marriage rate is so low in the black community. Culturally, it is uncool for black women to be faithful. They “gotta get their groove on.”
That’s an excellent point.
And in my area during my childhood/young adulthood, one did not move out of the family home until one married or moved out of the area. South Philly Italian/Irish heritage. It was common for households to have grandparents, parents, kids living together. Very family centered.
Again, I thank God my husband and I didn’t teach our children this.
Good point. It was easier. I think it’s still natural but not realistic.
“spreading her legs”
gotta love these comments, lol. And we wonder why we are here at this point today.
Again, thankful I was raised differently and raised my kids differently than this ideal.
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